Girls On Girls !

And yes the title is misleading, so get over it ! ;)



The song was playing in my head (then again, Sex on Fire and thankyou Kings of Leon for that one-was too!) and i had no idea what to call my note, so Lo Behold i came out with the very common male fantasy !



Anyways...this note is about Effort !



There's no such thing as *too* busy. Any person who has told you that the reason they haven't contacted you is because they have been "so busy" (read: nice way to say avoiding you) is quite simply lying. As if we don't lie enough already..

If someone wants to make the effort, they will. I have always made the effort for people even though they didn't reciprocate it because its what made me different to the other person ! As i got wiser(getting older isn't the same!), i realised the reason i was left doing more in the partnership was because i simply-did. I used to do my own share, the other person's share and then some more...



There is no need for THAT MUCH effort if the person isn't giving you equal measure in return ! Someone whom when you call, are greeted by voicemail-doesn't even have manners to return it and texts you. Thats just disrespectful. Or those who don't even bother to get back to you. You will meet plenty of twats out there who are so happy to meet someone that showers them with goodwill and generosity-that all they do is bask and never shine rays in return. Kick them to the curb (and make sure you get a dog to piss on them while you're at it).



People like that are called Energy Vampires. To those not familiar to the term, i'll give examples to break it down so that it's clear. I once had a friend who was constantly in negative mode. No amount of pep talk, hugs and tissues (because she'd ALWAYS cry) cleared things up. Even looking things from an objective point of view didn't. Misery loves company-or so the saying goes and by the end of our talk-she'd leave me drained, tired and quite frankly-exhausted. Energy Vamps are exactly that. They aren't sanguine. Sanguine Vamps (ones who drink blood) are better. Atleast you know to protect your flesh so they don't steal your valuable red blood cells !!

These type will drain you of your own hope,ambition and happiness and make sure you are never happy. They feed on the positive person's energy to keep them going.



Effort should be made by both people. If the other person takes you and your stuff for granted, leave. And if its you taking someone and their effort for granted-shame on you. Effort shows independence. Do not put up with anyone who doesn't have the time for coffee yet leisurely can go for a game of pool to the pub and waste their time there because that was the best excuse they could come up with to avoid you. I give as good as i get. Thats not being calculating, simply cautious.



Oh and there are people who will read this note and think "Wait-i've made the effort and yet YOU are the one that doesn't bother". Thats simple. You lost my respect.

I cut slack on a lot of behaviour because i'm not one who gets irritated or angry easily. Occasionally, someone will do something thats just inexcusable. People often try and provoke me to see me lose my cool. And once a person loses my respect, there's no basis for friendship or anything for that matter.



Screw Love. You can love pretty much anyone with time. Give it a few adrenaline rushes, a well timed touch, a bit of PEA from the brain and constant eye contact and hormones are little buggers-they flow themselves. Respect-someone needs to be worthy of that. And once someone loses that- you automatically stop loving them because a lot of love for someone is practicaly based on respect !



Oh and making the effort also means that your grammar is correct. There's no excuse for it. Sloppy grammar takes down your intelligence level a few notches and intelligence commands respect.



And effort is respected