The Fiesty One

The Fiesty One. Fiesty doesn't mean Bitchy though....



You have to exude confidence to demand respect. Thats right. Demand. No one gives you anything till you project the fact that you have a right to it. And thats what this note is all about. Gonna write both gender's takes on it, all the Ladies and Gentlemen tagged in this-shall appreciate !



Right ! Lets start with the Gents ey ;)

Men. Their DNA. Power. Those are 3 words that i have recurringly seen and dealt with in the same sentence. A man who exudes power gets EVERYTHING in this world. THATS RIGHT---EVERYTHING! The wealth, the women, the wine. Everything. Power is an aphrodisiac to women. Every single woman wants a powerful man. Powerful however doesn't mean controlling. I speak for every woman out there when we ALL say we hate controlling men. However a lot of women sadly decide to stay with men who control them. Not because they like it, but because control is a negative side-effect that is linked in with dominating men. Dominant men are a whole different ball game. They are the attractive powerful ones. The worst thing in this world is when a man gives away his power to a woman. All men are born with innate power. The difference is most happily give it away for a slice of a woman's attention and then you come across very rare finds that are kind to a woman but he doesn't let her have HIS power.

Thats the most desirable type of man on the entire planet.



There's a quote i famously use when i meet a guy (who is usually average) who complains about his lack of success with women. "Attractive (because men always aim high!) women see men like cars. Cars are everywhere. But its only once in a while that her head does a double take and flips around and thinks to herself...Hmmm...interesting." Then i question the man in his own terms. Would you look at a Ford Mondeo twice ? He usually (almost always!) says "No". I ask him "Why ?". He replies "Its an average car and every third person drives it out there!". To which i say "Well then, till you transform yourself into a Bugatti or a Maserati, good luck on having any luck with women". Being a Bugatti doesn't mean you have to be wealthy or famous. It just means you are a class apart :)



Now to move onto the Ladies. If a woman ain't fiesty-you're boring. And which man wants a boring woman. Just like at the beginning of the note-Fiesty doesn't mean Bitchy. It means you don't take any sort of shit from him and he knows you as the girl who'd smack him upside the head with a frying pan if you caught him cheating. He isn't scared by that. Rather he knows his limitation and how far he can push you. Always create boundaries. Achieving a man's respect is 100 times harder than his love. Because men are taught to respect things of value not people that feel the need of constant validation. So, being fiesty is an essential asset !



Well it's time for me to stop mieowing. The neighbours might hear me scratch the wallpaper off ;)

The Challenge

Right. Firstly condolences to my original note who passed away during the internet deciding to sell out on me just as i had finished my note and clicked Publish. R.I.P Note :(

This fabulous note is being written by the fabulous little me (modest, much :P !) again. As has been described. All about the Insecure Man's Ego. The Who's, Why's, Where's-Oh hell you get the picture ;)



We ALL have our insecurities. Be it a weakness, a personal internal battle or a thumbscrew-each person has one. None so more than the insecure man who THRIVES on his ego. His ego being his existance and all he knows. Men run on the 3 C's Autopilot. Control,Challenge and Conquer. A man HAS TO BE in control of a challenging situation and conquer it. Now personally, i have never got in the way of a bloke trying to solve a problem. Men are problem solvers by nature. Well how exactly did you think that back in caveman days (not like much has changed except we drive and wear clothes) men brought food home? The empty stomach was the issue and the problem needed to be solved.

Now the Insecure Man is often tested in life. Facades are put up and fortresses of barbed wire run closely around his emotion so much so that often he isn't sure how to compete with others. Problem is, some of us go through life with a yardstick measuring ourselves aganist EVERYTHING we can possibly find. That becomes a major issue in the thing that tests this type of man-the most. A UBER-STUNNING-JAWDROPPINGLY-ATTRACTIVE....WOMAN! This type of man can easily compete with someone who climbs higher, runs faster and drives with more speed. Thats all the things an average man feels he can compete with and make him (and more importantly-his ego) feel inflated.



The deflation (just like our miserable unfortunate economy) comes with the type of woman mentioned. This type of woman is EVERY STRAIGHT MAN'S DREAM! Men LOVE having this type of woman on their arm but 9 times outta 10 have no CLUE what's to be done with her. "Do we make her stand there and we can stare at her?"..."Do we worship her beauty?". Mind you, i don't blame guys. Beauty.Intimidates. And that's because that men deep down secretly beileve that if it aint the most alpha of alpha male rolling out with such a looker on his arm-he doesn't deserve her. I've never seen anyone question Denzel Washington or some 200 pound American Football Linebacker saying "How's a brutha out with such a FINE honey!?" . Because dudes themselves class him as powerful,wealthy and of physical character (tall,strong, handsome etc). The insecurity comes when men find themselves getting edgy because everyones checking out this hottie on his arm. He feels Proud. Vulnerable and Terrified. It isn't easy that it ain't only you whose got your sights set on this FINE woman. Hundreds of other dudes, just like you-have.



The Challenge ain't about being in this type of woman's life. Its about making your mark and staying there.